AGITATE [aj-I-tuh] No. That restless or anxious feeling can hit the pit of your stomach just as quickly as food poisoning. And that’s what it is.
An unhealthy infection or virus. It will stay for days, months or even years. This feeling came to me after the loss of an emotional state or attachment.
The law of human attraction works in two ways:
1. There are traits within you that are like magnets, drawing others to you or pulling them away.
2. People’s ideas try to deeply influence and introduce you to new habits, new behaviors and new characteristics.
When the heart opens up, it can sometimes take control of your life. That is, you allow it to do the thinking for you instead of what the mind knows to be fact and reality.
My mom always used to say, “think with your mind and not with your heart.” I understand now. A great thinker once wrote, “above all the heart is very deceitful.” How true are these words?
When I recognized the anxiety
Years ago, my life went through tumultuous changes with people. I couldn’t understand how to handle a loss. When a friendship ended due to acts of betrayal, jealousy, death, or deceit, she wept profusely.
Do you identify with hanging out, lots of laughs, sharing secrets, shopping, etc. with a friend? But, I knew somewhere along the way that there was a breach of trust.
I remember experiencing stomach pains.
Deep, cutting sensations filled my stomach for days. These feelings took away my appetite. They consumed my mind, thoughts and my entire being. (I know this was not healthy).
I did not know or understand HOW to deal with such losses. The lack in my life was having a true friend. It became difficult to trust people because of my experience of losing every two or three years.
Oh really. I remember seasons where I met new people, interacted, developed bonds, and two or three years later, what once was was nil and worthless.
One thing about life is that it sets patterns. People show you patterns. They are consistently or inconsistently consistent.
And when you’re looking for real, true, genuine people along with your experience, you start to notice the patterns.
You become sensitive. Your senses are alert. Different behaviors trigger triggers. It kind of feels like your discernment is sharpening and growing more. wakes you up
Some can move quickly.
Others are NEVER allowed to open.
Some internalize it and repress it.
Others act as if it never happened.
We process pain and anxiety differently and over various periods of time. Here are the 10 ways to manage anxiety:
Prayer consistent with the Scriptures
Tears – Cry when and as necessary. Never let anyone tell you not to. Crying is a cleansing process.
Consistent conversations with ONE person, NOT MANY. (Make sure you tell both sides. Healing cannot begin just by discussing offenses. You MUST assess yourself and his actions as well.)
Working more hours: this Band-Aid distracts me.
Going out to fun places -Laughter is medicine for the soul.
Acknowledge some of YOUR faults. (It is NOT 100% the other person).
Get closure with the guidance of someone trained. (A tricky request. Sometimes closure comes with accepting reality, moving on and letting it go in time.)
Process the facts so as not to think too much about the experiences.
Read and research information about the experience.
If time and space allow, have a final conversation with the other, in which we talk and find common ground to close in a non-defensive way. (If you are ready to talk in peace and the other is not, then it is wise not to proceed.)
The aftermath of anxiety helps amplify your writing
The consequences of anxiety can take two aspects: due to negative events or positive events. I find that after processing the anxiety there is more to say, write and help others.
You may be thinking, “Jacqueline, how can I write with more power and give advice to others?” Well, just because a “trigger moment” has arrived doesn’t mean you have nothing to say and that your words or courage no longer have incredible value.
Instead, you now have a plethora of details to write down and add to your story, poems, content, characters, or plot.
Writers write and draw primarily from experience and imagination. Are you able to describe your anxiety encounters in writing?
Can you write in detail an explanation of your anxiety triggers? Is it possible that a new character or story could be formed from one of your experiences?
There is so much power when we write from real, authentic places in our lives. As our character develops day by day and takes new forms, so it is with our stories and writing.
All stories, whether fictional or nonfiction, reveal one of two types of conflicts in life: external or internal conflicts.
Writing the conflict helps develop the plot. Also, immediately after the scenario, we should see the conflict before the rising action and climax.
Our waking lives unfold in the same way. There is a setting (where and when things start), the conflict (anxiety trigger), escalating action (trigger events), climax (anxiety attack), etc.
The sequels give us more to think about and write about. We are able to help others overcome and overcome their conflicts because we are the first participants.
Conclusion
In general, I now handle my anxieties with maturity. It’s not that I was immature before, I just didn’t have a clue or understanding of how to process and accept a loss.
This experience is the case for most. Most people just don’t know it. With this in mind, allow others to connect with your writing and stories through transparency and authenticity.
Then start seeing amazing results through the words and testimonials of your followers and readers.
I believe in writing from the heart. I am intentional about touching others with my writing. My writings expand due to my experiences and encounters with different situations and people.
The intense levels of my anxiety unlock amazing returns through open doors and remarkable people receiving my gifts. I know this sounds like an oxymoron. But that’s how it usually works.