Mental anguish can derail your healing journey indefinitely.
Emotional pain can darken your hope.
Physical suffering may well obstruct your healing progression.
All three – mental, emotional, and physical miseries – often accompany unwanted grief. They lead to a lack of clarity and uncertainty in your thinking about how to stop crying and start a healing process. All three highlight their fear and doubt of getting over their pain and loss. It is essential that you take important steps to transform your grief and loss into healing hope. The “HOW” is a vital answer to look for.
“If only I could tell the world one thing
it would be that we are all fine,
and don’t worry because worry is a waste
and useless in times like these.
I will not be useless.
I will not be idle with despair,
I will rally around my faith.
The light most fears the darkness. ”
~ Jewel
Faith to heal in the darkest moment is necessary to overcome fear. Recognizing that impossibilities are often temporary is essential.
“Things are impossible until they are not.”
~ Jean-Luc Picard, character from STAR TREK: The Next Generation
Let’s examine together beneficial solutions that provide ways in which you can overcome and erase fear and vagueness and confront head-on the mental anguish, emotional pain, and physical suffering caused by your grieving experience. There are five solutions to consider:
1- Do not give up your power
“The most common way that people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
~ Alice Walker
At all costs, don’t let your unique circumstance rule your emotions and hope. Take charge and rule your life from within. Your hope is a powerful empowerment. Search deep within all the mental, emotional and physical muscle that you have. You have your own power beyond what you temporarily believed you had when your terrible pain resulted.
“Greatness is not in our position,
but in which direction are we moving.
We must sail sometimes with the wind
and sometimes against –
but we must navigate,
and not wander, nor anchor. ”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
You must focus your attention and maintain a course of healing endeavor with a tireless commitment to weathering the storm of your pain, loss, and pain.
“No one is in control of your happiness except you; therefore, you have the power to change anything
about you or your life that you want to change “.
~ Barbara De Angelis
Seek your individual and unique power. You have more control than you think.
2- Face your obstacles
“Face your obstacles and do something about it. You will find that they are not half as strong as you think they are.”
~ Norman Vincent Peale
Fear and discouragement can be left in the dust if you use your best weapon; action is your best weapon. Fear and hesitation must not be allowed to rust and rust because it grows by itself. Because of your personal grief experience, you may feel like you’ve hit a thick, impassable wall. Don’t be submissive and give up without a fight. Determine how to get through it, climb it, or figure out how to avoid it. Get started today.
3- Don’t give up until the cows sing
Take a strong personal stance and follow Jonathan Huie’s suggestion:
“I will not give up until the goats sing and the walruses fly.”
Think about it: you are the only one who can force yourself to give up.
“Circumstances don’t defeat you, you defeat yourself when you surrender.” ~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Many give up on how long success is in the near future. They surrender too quickly in the last ten seconds of the game to a game winning basket. You may need to modify your efforts and the way you approach your goal; keep your eyes on your goal of reconciling your grieving condition and don’t give up. Keep reflecting and looking for solutions that suit your unique pain and sadness.
“When you get in a tight spot and everything goes against you, until it seems like you can’t hold out another minute, never give up, because that’s the place and time when the tide will turn.”
~ Harriet Beecher Stowe
Don’t let a temporary defeat condition last longer than it should. Giving up makes your grief permanent. You are not a product of your condition or circumstance, but of the personal decisions you make. Draw deep into your heart your pain and suffering over loss, because your painful experience can be the means of personal inspiration, strength, and survival.
4- Wait hope
“Hope hope is rekindled.
Hope your prayers are answered in a wonderful way.
The dry seasons of life do not last.
The spring rains will return. ”
~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
Always look for hope. It is a mistake to let the pain cloud over and erase the entire blue sky of hope. Hope or lack of optimism is purely a function of one’s attitude.
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
~ Vivian Greene
Life passes. Waiting for the storm of pain in your life to pass is a mistake. Learning to dance with hope in your heart is vital to healing.
5- Gather your forces
The storms of life give you the opportunity to learn. Life’s storms of pain provide another day, another way to learn a lesson to fight the current challenge you face and the next battle.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but many times we look at the closed door for so long that we do not see the one that has been opened to us.”
~ Helen Keller
Looking at closed doors prevents you from seeing open doors of possibilities and opportunities for healing. Look for your unique personal door of strength. Get through this door before it closes. Deep within you is untapped courage and strength until you need it.
“Take a good look at yourself; there is a source of strength
that will always arise if you always look there. ”
~ Marcus Aurelius
Gather solutions for the strength needed for your unique duel healing challenge. You can! Believe this is so!