Men are often like a maze to us. One day we feel that we are completely on the right track because our boy seems happy and fulfilled. The next day arrives and it seems as if we are lost in the dark as he backs away or becomes distant and critical. It’s hard to know how to react when your man’s mood changes and he doesn’t want to share his feelings with you. Contrary to popular opinion, many men feel things very deeply. Men can also be incredibly fickle when it comes to love and romance. If your guy turns off and doesn’t want to share what’s going on in his heart and head, you don’t have to keep feeling frustrated and lost. Women have an innate ability to make their man express what he feels. You just need to know what to do to make the man you love feel so close to you that sharing with you becomes normal, natural and extraordinarily comfortable.
Show him that you accept him completely and completely
One of the main reasons that many men do not share their feelings unconditionally with their partner is that they fear that they will not accept them. If you are the type of woman who is painfully honest, that can work against you when it comes to building a strong communication connection with your man. Obviously, it is very important to always be as honest as possible within your relationship, but if your man feels that he is going to criticize you, he will withdraw and exclude you.
You can build a solid foundation of acceptance by showing him that you love him just the way he is. Don’t try to change the man he is and don’t make disparaging remarks about him or the decisions he’s made in his life.
One area that can greatly affect your own connection to your current love is if you’ve become someone who constantly reminds him of how silly it was to get involved with his ex-girlfriend. Many men regret it when it comes to past loves and if you tease or point the finger at how reckless his love decisions were, you are going to alienate him. You have to be willing to accept it as it is, past warts and all. Once your man feels that you love him, despite all the weight he brings to your relationship, he will feel closer to you and will be more likely to share his current feelings.
Create a comforting environment for him to share
If your world is always full of drama, you will find that your man is not so interested in sharing the intimate details of what he feels. The reason is very simple. If you feel like the whole thing turns into a theatrical circus, you don’t want to put yourself in the middle of it. If a man believes that his wife will overreact or emotionally, he will keep it all to himself. He doesn’t want to tell you that he’s not ready for an engagement or that he wants a break if he feels like you’re going to fall apart. You must show him that you are emotionally mature enough to handle whatever he throws at you.
To achieve this, it is important to be prepared for any curveball that may throw in your direction. Always expect the unexpected from him. If you share some feelings that are difficult for you to take in, tell them calmly. Just say that you appreciate their honesty, but need some time to process what they just shared with you. If you can do this, you will be more inclined to share everything you feel because you will know that you can handle it in a mature and rational way.
Don’t be too eager to always share your innermost feelings
One of the main obstacles that many couples must overcome is that a person is too fast, too anxious or too assertive when it comes to sharing what they feel. Typically women take on this role. We feel so sorry for the man we are involved with that we simply allow the emotional floodgates to open and we begin to recite everything that we are feeling.
If your man isn’t ready to share his feelings with you, he will feel cornered or pressured. If we are honest, we can agree that we have a certain level of expectation that comes with sharing our heart with a man. At least we hope that he reciprocates those feelings. If he doesn’t, we feel embarrassed, he feels uncomfortable, and the whole dynamic of the relationship changes.
A good rule of thumb is to allow him to set the pace to share feelings. You may be concerned that this will result in confusion and a series of misunderstandings about what the relationship really is and where it is going. When a man falls in love, he wants to share that with the woman of his desire. You want to do that on your own schedule. You don’t want to feel pressured to say it before you feel completely ready. That is why you must accept the relationship for what it is, accept the experiences you have, and show her that you are the type of woman who will give her the emotional space she needs to sort out her feelings. If you can master that, you are well on your way to a deep connection with a man who feels like you understand him. He will see you as someone who is ready, willing, and happy to wait for him to want to share his feelings when he feels ready.